I just went through friend divorce. While not as painful and life shattering as real divorce, it's painful nonetheless.
An old friend and I had last commuicated on less than friendly terms. The other day we sat down to get some resolution like the Good Book says we should. It was clear through body language and cold, professional responses that I was not on his christmas list anymore. (The following may be completely biased, but it's true...) I did the best I could expressing regret and asking forgiveness with what had transpired. I let him know that I cared for him and would do what I could to help if he ever needed it. My open heart was met with a locked door, not just a locked door, but a door with 3 locks and a table with a fat guy sitting on it.. he was closed for bizness! (I often use humor to ease pain)
It's obvious I have been evicted from his life.... a life that I invested in, and still care for. That's the sad thing about divorce, it only takes one person to make it happen.
Here's a few things God has shown me through this:
-You're only responsible for yourself, do what YOU have to.
-God doesn't promise fairytail endings when doing his will in obediance.
-Will I let hurt and dissapointment hinder me from discipling from the heart? I hope not.
-Am I willing to risk losing a relationship to tell the truth? Or would I rather tell people what they want to hear so I can be everyone's buddy?
-I need to be thankful and treasure friends that have stuck around through thick and thin.
-Max is right, to make disciples we need a thick skin and a soft heart.