I don't like being lied to. I mean, what could be bad enough that someone wouldn't just tell me to my face? "I ran over your dog. Your breath stinks. I hate your face. Oh yeah, and that thing that we've been talking about for the last 3 years is still festering... not healed but a cleverly disguised sore covered with the pretense of good behavior." Am I an unforgiving person? Someone please tell me... and don't lie about that too!
All kidding aside, it hurts very deeply. I use humor to diffuse the pain. Can't we just be honest about our flaws, allow others to see how we really are? That's what God wants I think.